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Been there, done that.
At a certain age, is it okay to marry for gasp! This article ly appeared on Grandparents. The trend in marriage for women after 50 is to avoid it. One in three boomers is unmarried, and of that58 percent are divorced and 32 percent were never married, according to an analysis of data by the Department of Sociology at Bowling Green State University.
But with the economy the way it is not great and with many of us having to continue working instead of enjoying that once dreamed about early retirementmarriage might not be such a bad idea — for economic reasons. Not to dis' romantic love, but it turns out there are other reasons to get hitched. Just like in the days of the dowry or like arranged marriages in faraway lands, it's okay to marry for — dare I say it? I first heard what some might consider a blatant rejection of "true-love marriage" at a wedding some 10 years Married women 50. I was with my date during the reception when my friend, the bride, introduced us to a couple she knew.
When Married women 50 woman found out we'd been dating for a few years and had no plans to marry, she said, "Why not? It makes financial sense. You can marry him for his insurance. Through my audible gasp, she must have heard what I thought: I couldn't marry if it wasn't for love!
I rapidly ushered my date away from this odd couple and over toward the wine. Despite the big gulp, the idea of marrying for insurance stayed with me as the years progressed — income from an earlier divorce settlement dropped to zero and freelance work didn't make up the difference. Here are four reasons to consider marrying for the money after age Apparently, a bitter family member wouldn't add her to the list of visitors. They were engaged, anyway, so just married earlier than planned, right there at his bedside.
Tina Tessinaauthor and psychotherapist, says being married is not only the easiest way to be allowed to visit your partner in a hospital, but it also gives you the right to make health decisions should your partner be unable to. And then there was us. One day while discussing a health concern of mine, he just blurted out, "We should just get married now. You can get on my insurance. Even though the thought still knocked a gash in what I consider a lovely tradition, I'm now actually considering it.
When I posed the thought to friends on Facebook, one of them sent me a private message. His response was like mine, initially: "I can't imagine not marrying for love. Ramani Durvasulaa Los Angeles psychologist who works largely with couples in relationship turmoil, says marrying for economic reasons is not a bad idea. Marriage, she says, is a utilitarian institution that our culture has over-romanticized. Issues like insurance, retirement income, household expenses and even shared Social Security benefits are all important, valid concerns.
Committed older partners, says Durvasula, may decide it makes sense to work within a system they don't agree with, because "our institutional structures are set up to incentivize marriage.
That's what happened with Boston-based C. Kaye Lowe and her life partner of 25 years. The boomer-aged couple has been married for six years and that's only because Lowe finally relented to her Jewish mother's wishes and her stepfather's admonition. Unlike what her mother wanted — the big wedding and the big celebration afterward — Lowe says her groom was shy and didn't want to be on display, so they kept it simple. She let her mother, however, handle the bridal shower beforehand, so there was a party Married women 50 there were presents.
Ask her if it's worth it, and she says, "For us, it made sense. In short, there's more to marriage after 50 than love. There are health concerns, after-life plans to make and retirement. Plus, it's cheaper to finance one household, rather than two. A word of caution: Marrying for money won't fix a bad relationship. Tessina, a.
But only if your relationship is doing OK," she says. Search Search. Health All Health. The Coronavirus Pandemic. America's Entrepreneurs.
All Living. Vitality Arts. All Caregiving. The Future of Elder Care. X Search. By Jackie Dishner and Grandparents. Here are four reasons to consider marrying for the money after age Reason No. Reason No. Jackie Dishner. By Grandparents.
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