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But instead of banging your head against the wall, getting loaded and being a general prick to everybody in your field of vision, why n ot try a better way of handling your newfound freedom? So before you go blowing off steam and hard-earned cash on dancing girls and afternoon strip club buffets, consider some more conducive alternatives to a speedy recovery and sharpen the focus on being you again — a newly single guy.
Remember the guy who seamlessly tore all the sleeves off his entire wardrobe so he could have a sleeveless summer? Try not to waste too much time unraveling the mystery of heartbreak or dwelling in the past. Just accept that things are the way they are, put one foot in front of the other and carry on the best you possibly can.
Christmas came early, so enjoy it while it.
Maybe she found out she likes women? Regardless, in order for a relationship to work and work well, both people need to be happy alone. Sit with your coffee and enjoy the stillness of the morning. After awhile feelings can fester, so find healthy distractions. Go for long walks, listen to new music and stay out of your own head.
Nothing good will come from sitting in a dark all day. Get out of the house and start doing things you like doing again — on your own. You can fake it, but that might make you more miserable knowing you are lying to everyone. Instead, just do the things that make you happy, but do them better than before. You like dogs? Get yourself a dog. Oh hell, get two. Roll around on the ground with them in public and let them lick your face. It will be therapeutic. You like having a girlfriend? Get yourself a better one. Even the worst relationships, like verbally abusive ones where she told you you were worthless and made fun of you in front of your friends, have silver linings; lessons to be learned.
As you move on, spend less time thinking about the girl and more time thinking about what you personally became better at. You learned how to consistently hold the door for a woman? Good for you. Hang on to that, champ. Not everything is lost in a messy breakup. Grasp your pride and keep the chin up. She taught you how to sit up straight? That was nice of her.
Now, focus less on her bitching about how you operate and just remember that your posture is better now thanks to that situation.
Want another example? Did that negative ball of energy ever teach you some cool tricks? Use them. She showed you how to cook chicken in a skillet with organic produce instead of broiling it unseasoned for four hours in the oven? Use that recipe with your next girlfriend. You can take something you learned and make the next similar experience even better, without owing anything to her or a dysfunctional relationship. Before you burn all the photos and shoe boxes full of love sonnets you wrote, consider the things you might have been lagging in before, during and after this whole debacle, then correct it.
If you felt sluggish or out of shape, take the time to eat right and work out more. Does your place smell like cats because she had one despite your hatred of cats? Clean the place up or move to a neighborhood more suited to your interests. If you miss staring at sexy coeds in public, move near campus. Get yourself some dark tinted glasses and have yourself a polite afternoon. So fix what feels wrong and make everything about you. The beauty of being a single guy is you only need to worry about you for the time being. If that period lasts the rest of your life, more power to you. Take your ribbon and go home.
She wants to linger around and be friends? The most she can ask for is that you return her underwear, but feel free to take your time with that. To conclude, all of these ideas might be easier to write than execute, so instead of being glib and ignoring the fact that you might actually be having a tough time, remember that things happen for a reason.
When that shiny green bike with front AND back pegs was the most important thing in the world to you right before it was run over by a garbage truck, you thought your world was ending. But that led to you growing up and buying a car, which might have been where you first got laid.
You grow as a person and Newly single and done with guys on to better things. Chin up and carry on, fella. Photo: Getty.Newly single and done with guys
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How a (Newly) Single Guy Handles a Breakup